The unwritten rules of texting

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Dating is a game between two players, sometimes there are rules, and other times you make them up as you go along. But in the beginning when you both have a chance of winning, why do you let yourself fail at the first hurdle?

I recently asked the following question at one of my singles events to gain their opinion, but more importantly to help break the ice.

maxresdefaultIf you have both been given each other’s mobile number, how long do you wait before making contact and would you call or text first?

The majority said they would text first within 3 days and then arrange a good time to call to have a conversation. This seemed fair to me and the right way to go. However, I then asked. Whose responsibility they felt it was to make the first move?

This is where it all changed…

Most of the women felt that the men should make the first move, and if they hadn’t heard from them within 3 days this would automatically reflect badly on them. The men, however, disagreed and felt that the women could also make the first move and that sometimes it’s been nice when they have done so.

1010-54 039 1010-54 Texting Illustration October 28, 2010 Photo Illustration by Jaren Wilkey/BYU © BYU PHOTO 2010 All Rights Reserved (801)422-7322When we now live in a society so reliant on our mobile phones, that we carry them around in our back pockets all day at work, we can no longer use the excuse, ‘my phone was in my bag or locker at work’ (depending on your profession, that is!). I appreciate that you may want to take a bit of time to conduct the first message and get the tone right. However, you don’t want to leave it too long as it might be sending the wrong message altogether.

So girls, be bold, break the rules and make the first move, as you’ve got nothing to lose and could have everything to gain.

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Date Masi … putting the fun back into dating!

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